Jerry Astrology

I was having a wonderful conversation with two friends yesterday, both of whom I finally met in person, as our previous interactions were all on Zoom. 

After we had caught up with how each of us were doing, the conversation took a turn to a deeper topic – generational trauma, how the experiences of our grandparents shape their behaviours, which in turn shape our parents, and finally shaping us as their children, in ways that do not serve us and gets in the way of us living a fulfilling life. 

I am sure most of us have heard of “generational trauma” before, and how such “trauma” shows up can include:
– Lack mentality
– Fear of abandonment
– Anxiety
– Emotional numbness

As we were reflecting and sharing our own challenges, one friend very wisely pointed out that, yes we all have generational trauma, but we also have generational blessings that are passed down to us too, behaviours and traits shaped by our family that serves us well in life.

Here are some of the generational blessings that the three of us have received:
– Resilience and a “can do” attitude
– Encouragement and financial support to walk an unconventional life path despite challenges
– Wisdom and teachings passed down through tradition on staying healthy

I thought that was a very wonderful reframe, a wonderful shift in perspective and the direction of our conversation. And all of us being Co-Active coaches, we recognise that this reframe isn’t about avoiding what’s unpleasant, but rather to metaphorically expand our field of vision to include both the pleasant and unpleasant, the blessings and the traumas, when we look at the topic of “what we inherit from our family”. 

Most of us have a default perspective when we look at something, and reframing is a way of helping us explore and embrace other possible perspectives. Perhaps there is another perspective on the situation that can better support us in taking action that is aligned with our values.

And this is what I do in my coaching practice, helping clients explore and shift their perspective on a situation they feel stuck in, then taking resonant actions to break out of the rut. If this describes you, and you would like to explore how my coaching can support you in this aspect, do use this link to schedule a conversation with me – https://calendly.com/starryacorn/sample-session

For now, here’s an inquiry for you – what generational blessings have you received? Pls do share them in the comments below. 

Have a wonderful week ahead!